Is the Bride’s speech becoming a new tradition? Is it something that you, yourself would consider for your wedding day?
My first experience of a Bride’s speech was my beautiful friend Katie, to her husband in 2019 (main photo). She stood up loud and proud and expressed her love, her thanks and her hopes for their future together.
There are so many wedding pages that are available on social media now, all offering different advice. I happened across a thread which was discussing whether or not this particular bride should stand up and say her own speech.
I was absolutely gob-smacked at some of the comments, some from men but mostly from other women…
A WOMAN?!? Stand up and create a new tradition of speaking in front of her new family and friends? To have an articulate opinion about the people she will spend the rest of her life with? Hold me up before I faint.
Of course, standing up in front of full of people can be daunting for everyone, even the most accomplished and experienced of speakers. Similarly, you may be happy to sit back, relax and listen to the hilarious, heartfelt and horridly embarrassing messages that race around the room. After all, it is your day too and no one should feel pressure to give a Bride’s speech if they really don’t want to.
“Tell your life partner how blimmin’ gorgeous they are”
That said… what a wonderful opportunity for you to tell your life partner how blimmin’ gorgeous they are and how grateful you are for your friends and family, old and new, for coming to witness the most important day of your lives.
There are, of course, many reasons why a bride may not want to speak so publicly on her big day. She may feel nervous enough as it is without the added obligation of speaking at length in front of everyone.
The bride may also think her speech will make her a bit emotional (and she paid a hell of a lot for that MUA!)
Preparation to writing a speech is key!
BUT! If you prepare and plan – it will go beautifully… and if your eyes leak a little –
it’s not the end of the world! If you know what you want to say – it’s half the battle.
If you consider ad-libbing, you may end up more flustered than you imagined.
Here are a few things to think about:
- (The biggest one) Do you want to surprise your partner on the day?
- Do you want to schedule your speech so that they know what to expect?
- The surprise speech is always a good shout – but try to get an idea of thank-yous
that they are planning in their speech so you don’t overlap or repeat yourselves.
- When planning the surprise, get a sense of how long they are planning to speak for
- If there is no check time, you might want to make yours a bit more concise.
- When planning your speeches together, you can decide who is going to thank whom and only one of you should tell the story about that one time…
- You can also decide to give each other equal air time – about five or six minutes each to
keep that reception interesting!
But most of all… Be funny. Be romantic. Tell the story of exactly how brilliant your one and only is. Challenge that male dominated tradition and deliver a mic drop speech that your guests will always remember.
Drop me an email today about how to write your perfect Bride’s speech!